As a nation, we do most of our moving in our younger years. Twenty-somethings cross the country in pursuit of better jobs. Thirty-somethings move to bigger houses and communities with better schools. By the time most of us hit late middle age, we’ve accumulated so much stuff along the way that the idea of another move has about as much appeal as a root canal.
Still, 29 percent of Americans between the ages of 50 and 64 were planning to move within the next five years, according to The Conference Board’s 2012 Consumer Confidence Survey. For many, doing so means jettisoning the possessions of a lifetime.
“The keyword is convenience,” says real estate agent Zelda Heller, a TTR Sotheby’s International Realty agent who has experienced the process firsthand. She and her husband, Izzy, downsized from a house in Bethesda to a condominium in the Parc Somerset complex in Chevy Chase in 2000. To make the move more manageable, she came up with a system of color-coded stickers that she now recommends to all her clients—a blue tag for furniture and other items they want to keep or give away to the children; white for donations; red for items to be sold at estate sales; and so forth.
“One collects and collects when you are younger,” she says, “and suddenly your possessions are not all that important” compared to the yen for travel and enjoying life unencumbered from the pressures of maintaining a big home and garden.
Carol Walser, a partner at Bethesda Estate Service, says downsizing is definitely gaining popularity. She should know. After divorcing at age 48, she held an estate sale and downsized from a three-bedroom colonial in Bethesda’s Wood Acres neighborhood to a town house in Carderock.
“Every situation is unique,” Walser says. She has seen people who grew up in the Depression struggle to part with their belongings. “The Depression-era folks are more concerned with passing down the family heirlooms,” she says. By contrast, “younger people are more comfortable with getting rid of their stuff.”
Some of that may have to do with this point in history. “Life is so complicated,” one real estate expert notes, “making it simpler is appealing.”
Here are three area couples who decided to downsize, and how they did it.
The House Around The Corner
Chris and Trish Abell, Chevy Chase
Abell, formerly the president of Mater Dei School in Bethesda, and his wife, Trish, a retired reading specialist, briefly lived in Bethesda before moving to Chevy Chase in 1979 to raise a family. By 2002, their kids were nearly grown and the Abells were thinking about how they could downsize without leaving the neighborhood. That year, a small house on West Irving Street—right around the corner from their home—went on the market. So the couple bought it, rented it out for four years, and finally, in 2006, embarked on renovations before moving in.
First, though, they had to get rid of the possessions they’d accumulated—and that alone took more than a year.
They gave much of their furniture to their four kids. But the younger generation, whose tastes run more to Pottery Barn and Crate&Barrel, passed up antiques such as their grandmother’s Heron Fine China. That went into an estate sale, along with the gold-rimmed soup tureen Trish’s mother had given her. “I never used it; it took me 20 years to realize I could get rid of it,” Trish says of the dish.
The Abells also held four or five garage sales, and called Goodwill to cart away the remainder of their belongings.
“You go through a purging stage and it feels kind of good,” Trish says. “It was a lot of work. I’m glad we did it when we did, because I’m not sure I’d still have the energy.”
Even as they downsized, the Abells were upsizing their new house. Zoning rules required the preservation of at least 50 percent of the existing structure. So their architect, George Myers of GTM Architects in Bethesda, devised a plan to temporarily brace the walls, lift the house and build a foundation where there was none.
Myers also reversed the direction of the gabled roof to better blend with the neighborhood, and he opened up the interior. He created large wall openings bolstered by casings—but without the partitioning walls—throughout the first floor to maintain the sense of distinct rooms while making the most of the home’s original 1,280 square feet of living space on the first and second floors.
After adding a finished basement and an attic suite with a bedroom and full bath, the couple ended up with about 3,400 square feet of living space, considerably less than the 5,500 square feet they left behind. The result is a traditional-looking home outside with the airiness of a contemporary design inside.
Myers and Bethesda-based interior designer Kelley Proxmire, who was called in to help, refer to it as a “big small house.” Taking into account the Abells’ desire to entertain, Myers and Proxmire converted the old living room into a more versatile space with a wet bar. The first floor also has a mudroom and den.
Upstairs, there’s a master suite and two more bedrooms, and the attic suite provides plenty of room for children and grandchildren when they visit.
There’s a media room in the basement, and the couple had an elevator shaft installed in case stairs become a problem as they get older. The Abells moved into the home in 2009.
“It’s a little gem,” Trish says of her “big small house.”
The Little-Big Brownstone
Susan and Kenny Kasnett, North Bethesda
For Kenny and Susan Kasnett, it meant moving in 2005 from a 10,000-square-foot home in Potomac to a 7,000-square-foot house in Bethesda, and then to a 3,500-square-foot brownstone at Symphony Park in North Bethesda in 2012.
“I didn’t need a big house anymore,” says Susan, 56, who has three grown kids and two grandchildren. “This place is close to the Metro and it’s a 10-minute drive to Bethesda,” she says of the four-bedroom, 4½-bath home, which comes complete with an elevator.
Culling treasured possessions can be daunting, but Susan saw it as “a way to clean house and simplify our lives.” Having an estate sale and kids needing furniture also eased the transition.
Kenny, 59, is an executive vice president at Embrace Home Loans in Bethesda, where he has worked since 2009, so he knows something about the real estate market. “We were one of the early buyers here,” he says of the new community, which is still under construction. “I knew the builder was putting together an excellent plan for the development.”
For the past 17 years, Susan has run Summer 365, a home-based camp consulting business, with her 28-year-old daughter, Lauren. The business requires some travel, another reason to own a self-contained home. “Living here is very flexible. You don’t have to worry about cutting the grass,” Susan says. “You just close the door and go.”
To help her prepare for a more compact life, Susan leaned on friend and interior designer Linda Mann. “Linda has excellent taste, but she was also building her own home at the time,” Susan says, “so she eventually bowed out.”
The Kasnetts then turned to Terri Johnson, visual director of Urban Country in Bethesda, who focused on the main living area. “Susan has a fantastic art collection
and isn’t afraid to step out and take some chances,” Johnson says.
A baby grand Steinway piano that Susan has had for 25 years became the focal point of the living room. The formal dining room features a custom-size, square dining table from Bolier, with elegant, off-white dining room chairs from Lillian August, and a metallic-leaf sideboard from CR Currin.
The kitchen, located between the family and dining rooms, boasts a large island that’s perfect for casual meals, and lots of marble counter space. The stainless steel appliances are from Viking, and the painted cabinetry is by Wood-Mode.
A gas fireplace and coffered ceiling give the family room a comfortable, cozy feel. A distinctive resin table by Oly provides “a nice twist on tradition,” Johnson says. And a custom-made banquette provides another place for a quick meal with friends. Large windows overlook The Mansion at Strathmore.
“Even though I don’t have as much storage as I used to, I love living here,” Susan says of her new home. “It’s just the right size.”